Here we go again…

Here we go again…

I feel like this is a “ground dog day” story. The same record is getting stuck on the same spot again. I mean gosh, how many times have I moaned and bitched about Instagram removing not only perfectly censored posts or content that fall well within their rules and guidelines; but also disabling my accounts. I have to date lost 4 Instagram accounts. And due to their computer automated or rather artificial intelligence systems and programmes – you hardly know whether a human would ever even look or address any concerns or complaints.

The worst part about all of this is that content creators such as myself are unfairly targeted for posting images that clearly on their pages states what it is, and adhere to the rules. YET we as women receive unsolicited images from strangers daily, and we report it. And nothing is ever done. NOTHING. You can report it several times over and it will stay. The person gets away with sexual abuse. OR these fake accounts that use your account name and steal your content to attract traffic to fake membership accounts. You keep repeatedly reporting it, and of course, you’re able to prove your identity or the legitimate owner of the account, yet those accounts stay.

I think the first part of 2021 alone my account was removed 5 times? Maybe 7 times? I have had to appeal each time and yet they would keep the old “offensive” content (which they agreed was NOT breaking any of their rules) on your violation list. Therefore, every time some very sour or jealous, or conservative person reports my content I would immediately be disabled. Each time it would take approximately 3 weeks for them to have a look at the appeal and up to 30 days to decide on whether they should disable the account or not.

Looking back over the years, this is utter nonsense as surely from a legal perspective they are not providing the service they mention they aim to. There is nothing about this that is “fair” nor “protecting the diverse user”. Children are legally not allowed on Instagram – their legal age limit is 13. As for religious or cultural groups, this is where we as adults can decide what we choose to see and/or follow and what we do not want to – surely? The fact of the matter remains that I can only foresee that female content creators such as myself will have this challenge forever really. As this corporation seems to be stuck in its ways. Which is rather curious right? It’s the biggest business yet they don’t have anyone to assist? Bizarre…or maybe that is just the excuse.

I have personally spent HOURS on building my brand and my business only to go through this stressful and depressing process several times a year. Each time when I have to appeal I have to sell my case to Instagram: this is a business. “This is my business and I make an income from it. You are withholding my tools to create my income. You are not looking nor attending to any of my concerns.”

Leading up to this latest occasion of my main account being disabled at 27K followers; I reported repeatedly that someone is purposely sabotaging my account. That someone is vindictively going out to report all of my work, which all fall within the rules and guidelines. I have to date not had a single reply nor assistance with regards to the 100’s of reports sent to Instagram requesting help.

A little while back I asked whether someone knew anyone at the Facebook corp that I can reach out to. I had one follower that pointed me in the right direction, however, FB refuse to deal with the public nor address any of the concerns. I suppose it is no new news the corporation is a political entity all by itself that basically can do whatever the hell they want to as legally no one can really touch them. Which is rather sad. And the reality is that as much as I despise their double standards and their prejudice, I still need the platform to drive traffic to my various sites.

Onwards and upwards I suppose. Until we have a team of people that has the hutzpah to take a stand against Instagram/Facebook, we will have to keep putting up with this nonsense. So here’s to rebuilding my following and hoping and praying that my main account will return. And of course, it will mean that I will yet again go through the content and remove anything that is remotely “too sexy” or reveals a little too much skin for a woman.

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Do you have ANY idea…

How much work goes into being an Instagram model, or OnlyFans creator??

So often the industry that I am in, gets glamorised. I suppose it is only natural considering that one is meant to look aesthetically pleasing all the time. So often it is presumed that because of the nature of the photoshoots I do; one can talk to me like I am a weevil. Like I am lesser human than those who are clothed. So often it is presumed that this may be a sexual fantasy or sexual kick for me.

It gets exhausting to interact with men specifically that enjoys sending unwanted genitals pictures. Or starts off with “you are so hot, I’d like to fuck you” or even “let me lick your tits”. Now don’t get me wrong; I understand that I have left that door open, right? As many folks presume that when you take your kit off you are basically dropping your identity as human and you instantly become a sexual internet avatar that only talks in “sex” and has absolutely no feelings. Why would you? You are making people horny after all. Right?

People such as myself spend hours in our privacy preparing for the week you see on social media or the internet. This is spent in ALL areas; including beauty, shopping and wardrobe planning, concept creation and planning, marketing, advertising, web developing, researcher, student. Hours on social media interacting and building following to turn into leads that will turn into paying subscribers (head of your own sales). Planning of photoshoots, planning of collaborations, venue hunting. This does not include your role as a psychologist, family counsellor and relations advisor to your following or subscribers. Now amongst this, you need to include, eating plans, fitness and training, hair, skin, make-up, nails, lashes, self-tan/tanning etc to either enhance or look after your physical attributes.

And you know something, most – if not all of the above – costs money. More so, it is done to create an income. And as we also know as far as business is concerned, where there is a demand there will be a supply tapping into this market can be profitable. It takes a certain type of person with a thicker skin to last or make it a success.

With this profession comes a number of other challenges, including staying friendly, and patient. The effect of internet bullying and social media pressures on mental health is insane. It is not the nearly naked pictures that affect you as much as the abuse from strangers and weird followers that think it is okay to talk to you like you are lesser than anyone else, because you wear less. It is the persistence in keeping your business alive and your sites going by fighting those who keep reporting your content or that trolls you. It’s the pressures of coming up with creativity the someone told you that you are doomed, you are going to hell, that your family must be ashamed of you. For me personally, it is the assumption that because I am such a free spirit that I must be into all kinds of sex shows, lifestyles and kinks. And that I would like to meet up and have sex.

Personally, I feel it is disgusting that the Facebook corporation specifically have so much favourability towards the toxic patriarchal system that allows people to treat women with such little to no respect. A man can DM me and talk abusively to me, send me all kinds of sick videos and pictures. I will report in continually and nothing will be done. The number of times that one has to report anything on any of the Facebook companies and yet nothing is done.

It would interesting to know whether you knew how much goes into being a nude model or an adult content creator. It would be more interesting whether this has made you realise that there is a lot more to this than just taking your kit off.

If you are a content creator – or want to be one, make sure you reach out to Scarlett Moon or me to help you start up.

Social Media’s hold

Social Media’s hold

Captured by
Boudoir Fusion Photography
Inked by Tony from
Awhe Tattoo Studio

I’ve recently decided that I have too many eggs in one basket and too many fingers in a pie. And as much as it’s brilliant to think that I am a “Jack of all trades”- reality is that where you focus you grow. And unfortunately it is impossible to grow in too many avenues.

I have had to deal with a few personal challenges which caused another Lupus flare. This consisted of mostly extreme fatigue, flu-like symptoms, aching joints and recently swollen face. Not being able to sleep comfortably yet feeling so incredibly exhausted really took its toll. Then the social media frustrations…

As most of you know; I’ve taken a short break from Social Media. This was prompted after the frustration of not being able to follow other accounts, like others’ posts at times and not being able to comment on other’s posts. Should you not know this; these actions are all integral for the growth of your social media profiles. (Besides the fact that I actually enjoy interacting with my followers.)

I do not take it [social media] too seriously; however I do depend on getting work through some of my social media pages. This all led to me deciding on a little detox. Now as much as such a decision is rather easy; allot of my close friends continue checking up on me asking me whether I’m “coping” without my Social Media accounts. Was I really that much on those platforms that people thought I’d struggle?

Whilst all of this is said with tongue in cheek, one of the scariest realisations recently is that people place so much value on social media that they actually identify their social standing or even their life accomplishments on being “available, present and seen” on their profiles. Their “likes” and “followers” become such an obsession that they begin to identify themselves with it! Studies have now shown that teen depression and teen suicidal tendencies are at its highest ever. This largely due to the pressure of a “false life” on social media.

Captured by
Boudoir Fusion Photography
Inked by Tony from
Awhe Tattoo Studio

You see it way too often on the story lines. You see someone you idolise at some prominent restaurant and perhaps take a short video of sipping on some exotic drink with bags of shopping around them. This now seems very ideal; and probably cool to the average teen, who copies this. Only they try and emulate what they saw. Perhaps trying on the newest brand clothing and posting it as if they have just bought it. Another peer sees this and envies this. Perhaps goes to a bespoke bar and takes a snap insinuating that they dine there. This is seen by others who now feel so depressed that they are unable to afford these kind of life styles exhibited by their peers. And so the circle continues. Talking to people “in the know”, social media is still so new that these issues that come along with it is just as new, and our experts have no experience in treating this. Or very little at the moment.

It’s become quite evident how Social Media can take over and how one can allow it to affect them. Taking breaks and also limiting the amount of time you “check” on what’s going on, “checking in” to see what is going on, and “checking new likes and follows”, all will benefit your mental health I assure you. What I have personally realised from this is that when I have a spare moment I usually grab my phone and try catching up.

When I announced that I’d take a break, I deleted every social media application off my phone. This not only takes away temptation to “just quickly check what’s going on”, but also in those moments that you’d forget about your decision. I am so surprised that I have continuously had a couple moments free time and automatically went for my phone to catch up, only to see a void where the apps were – and feeling literally confused and lost. Like what now? What can I do with the time I used to spend on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter?

With most smart phones now; you are able to gauge how much time is spent on your phone, and reminders “to take breaks”.

This break from my virtual reality made me realise that I’m not only “detoxing” from Social Media, I’m freeing up “thinking space” and allowing my creative juices to flow freely. Less human interaction – which in reality exhausted me – and more ME time. Whilst social media is an integral part of what I do; I will from now on take one day completely away from all social media, as well as once a month take a four day break. I’d suggest to anyone and everyone to do the same. Take days completely away from Social Media – to allow your mind a break as well as to connect with nature/family/real life/ hobbies etc. It is so easy to get carried away with this virtual reality. So easy to loose sight of YOU. So easy to get caught up in other people’s (pretend?) lives and neglect your own self.

Captured by
Boudoir Fusion Photography
Inked by Tony from
Awhe Tattoo Studio
Your Understanding vs My Reality

Your Understanding vs My Reality

Many a times I am asked the strangest questions; (strange to me) about what I do – or I hear the assumptions and can’t help but have a giggle.

To understand what I do, is to understand why I am doing what I do first. Have I lost you? What I mean is that when you look at my work, my posts on Instagram and my website; there is a general assumption as to what I do without realising what I actually do.

In the past I’ve received private messages on Social Media…

Asking for explicit images of me sometimes posing in suggestive ways. Usually this amuses me; and I always ask what gave them the idea that I’d do that or that I’m a porn star. And usually the response would be that I shouldn’t get offended as I am the one “asking for it” by posting nude images of myself. My first question would usually be : where did I show my genitals and second question : where do I pleasure myself.

You see, we as humans, and we as society have been lied to for so many years that we actually believe that the human body is a dirty, sinful thing when not covered with fabric. We have taught generations of children to be ashamed of themselves. To be embarrassed with what we were born with. That evil creatures will lurk around any corner and will pounce on you for showing a little too much skin. That there would be justification for those acts! You asked for it after all by “exposing” some of what you were born with!!

I was asked in a recent interview what I’d tell anyone who condemns what I do or brand my work as pornography. The difficult thing is that I cannot change society’s mind single handily. I do however believe that if we brought our children up to love their own bodies, and not to be ashamed of their bodies, that we respect each other’s naked bodies – not by hiding it but accepting it as natural and normal. Not to sexualise nudity and skin; that it would solve so many of our crimes and the worlds issues today.

Think about it…

There would be less sexual crimes, less depression due to self esteem issues, less self harm and eating disorders. Imagine a world with more confidence and acceptance of one self? We would have so much more success in every business sector! So many more people would achieve their dreams and optimum productivity!

Captured by Boudoir Fusion Photography

I digress. Years ago when I posed for a boudoir shoot, and whilst changing outfits, the photographer of the day asked whether he could take a shot (picture) of me. My back was facing him and I was dressed in only my knickers. I felt a little shy yet intrigued. I’ve never really had an issue with being naked; yet I’ve never actually thought of being photographed naked.

Once I got changed into my next outfit the photographer showed me on the LCD viewer what he had taken of me whilst topless. It was a gorgeous shot. It summed up to me; what I see in women. Soft, elegant, warm, feminine, sensual, love, beauty all in one. I was amazed that THAT was me! And so I was happy to shoot implied nude. After realising that this not only motivated me to share the beauty of a woman, but also to encourage other women – who do not have self confidence – that they are in fact beautiful in their own skin!

After a few months of shooting boudoir and implied nude; I met Peter from Boudoir Fusion Photography who took my first bodyscape images and I was blown away! Never mind that the images I was looking at; was of me!!! However; the human body is so darn beautiful. And every other bodyscape that Peter have done, took my breath away. I quickly learned that my art, my expression through my modelling and the images taken by me, can show emotion and can evoke emotion.

When you look at my work…

I would like to believe that most people see past the ‘nakedness’. That you notice the colours, the shapes, the textures in the images. That you are able to feel or notice whether there is sorrow, or happiness. Whether the image is more of a fine art piece to be hung on a wall of a surgeons office, or something that could be looked at or admired from your mobile phone screen, used in an advertising campaign empowering women, or used as a PC screensaver. That you can believe that I’m more than a ‘naked woman’; someone who at the age of 39 believes wholeheartedly that ANYONE can love themselves and is art. That anyone – no matter what your age, your size or your background – can love the skin that they are in. That nudity DOES NOT equal sexuality.

I love modelling, photography and matters of the heart and mind. I love art. I love the human body. Combine all of these; and you will find what I do. This is only the beginning…

What the DM – v2

What the DM – v2

If you are a loyal follower; you would have seen a while back that Ive posted some of the weird and wonderful DM’s I receive from followers. Most the time these are from the arb guys. The “passer by’s” I’d like to call them 😂

Note that I don’t always disclose their names as I really dislike “naming and shaming”. A lot of you disagree with this; however I do not feel good/satisfied/better/empowered in embarrassing someone else; and certainly not out there to “teach lessons”. This is good comical fun though…

I’m often asked how I even deal with it or cope with it. Very easily. 1. They have no idea who I am, 2. They were raised not respecting women 3. They have problems with their sexual lives 4. They are trollers

Caught out!

Hi

Hiiiiii

Hey

Hey 

Hiiiii

Hey 

You beauti

U

Hey

U no pretty anyway!!!!!

looking gergious

Hiiiiiiii

Sugar Daddy Proposal

Wanting to get spoilt rotten with good money, afford luxury clothes, shoes and good lifestyle with a weekly allowance? Am a sugar daddy looking for a loyal and honest sugar Baby to take care of, kindly HMU if interested.

I’m still waiting 😎

Dude: Hey kan u send naked video pvt

Me: You first

Dude: Ai jis do video call

Me: No, just send me a video of you

Dude: No do not hafe video of me

Me: Send me a video of you

Dude: What

Me: Send me a video of you

Me: A naked one

Dude: huh

Me: Dude – seriously? Let’s think about this. Really carefully

Dude: nag

Me: You really think I will send “naked pictures or videos” of me? To you? Who are you even? If you want naked videos or pictures go look on pornsites. Bye

Me: BTW send me your parents details – I need to congratulate them on teaching you manners and respect

Dude: huh?

Rejected!

Dude: Hiiiiiiiii sexy

Dude: You are so gorgeous, and have an incredible delicious body. Tell me, would a fine women like you be taken? Let’s hook up sometime and I can show you a few things *insert an unusual amount of arb emoji’s*

Dude: I guess the cat caught your tongue *insert double of the above amount of emoji’s*

Me: Hey there, thank you. No – however you did appear to message me at 3am. And in all fairness I was catching up on some much needed beauty sleep. No kitties in sight! That leads me to my next answer. I have never gone anywhere against my will, therefor not “taken”. I am however married 🙂

Dude: Aaaaaaaah sorry. Just delete this message. Thanks. I didn’t mean any of it anyway

Me: WHAT? Are you telling me I’m ugly?

Dude: That is not what I meant.

Me: Oh, so I’m not gorgeous, nor fine?

Dude: No, you are very beautiful

Me: Oh you’re assuming that I won’t be lost anymore since I’m “taken” therefor you won’t need to show me “a few things”?

Dude: Yes

Me: Out of curiosity; what exactly were you going to show me (considering you appear to be 19 and I am 39)

USER NOT FOUND

Too Easy

Dude: hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

Me: no

Dude: Okay

How does one resist this?

Too Easy 2

Dude: Can I ask you something?

Me: (think: here we go….) Typing: Sure 😊

Dude: When you pose, do you get horny. Or do you turn the photographer on?

Me: No, and no. This is a job. Do you get turned on at work?

Dude: Sometimes

Me: Well I don’t

Dude: Can I send you a picture?

Me: No thank you

Dude: Please

Me: No

Dude: okay.

Dude: Have a nice evening

Dude: If you change your mind……

Mr Famous

Dude: Thnx 4 da follow love ur gallery wow

Me: Thank you

Dude: Pleasure do you mind sharing some pictures or videos mwa

Me: You may find all my images on artbyam.com

Dude: Was hoping u would make it more special by sending it 4 me Swt *insert roses and hearts and kisses and hearts and roses*

Me: Thanks. I’m a professional model. I don’t swap images. All my images are “special”

Dude: Im totally aware of that but u caught my attention and I find u so attractive its also my dream and vision to become a pro bodybuilder

Me: I suggest you do your research prior to addressing any lady and disrespecting her. I am not a porn star. One of the lessons I suggest you learn (on your way to get your Pro card and being a prominent figure within the industry) is respect and being humble. NOT asking to swap nude videos.

Me: Have a nice life

Since you ask so nicely….

Pardon?

Dude: Hey! hgd?

Dude: Wmj?

Dude: halo sexy; wmj?

Me: what does that even mean?

Dude: jmr mooi dang. js bja mooi!

Me: no

Dude: Jys rrg bja mooi

Dude: Halo?

Dude: wmj

Whilst I do try and engage as much as I can with my followers on IG, I limit my time on Facebook. I also found that the people on Facebook are – in general and not everyone – a little more rude and crude. Perhaps I have just started loosing interest due to the very strict rules and restrictions. Regardless, I value each person who follows me, respects me and takes the time to appreciate what I do. Whatever their thoughts, assumptions or intentions are!

Version 3 will most likely be posted soon! Hope you had a little giggle 😜