What the DM – v2

What the DM – v2

If you are a loyal follower; you would have seen a while back that Ive posted some of the weird and wonderful DM’s I receive from followers. Most the time these are from the arb guys. The “passer by’s” I’d like to call them 😂

Note that I don’t always disclose their names as I really dislike “naming and shaming”. A lot of you disagree with this; however I do not feel good/satisfied/better/empowered in embarrassing someone else; and certainly not out there to “teach lessons”. This is good comical fun though…

I’m often asked how I even deal with it or cope with it. Very easily. 1. They have no idea who I am, 2. They were raised not respecting women 3. They have problems with their sexual lives 4. They are trollers

Caught out!

Hi

Hiiiiii

Hey

Hey 

Hiiiii

Hey 

You beauti

U

Hey

U no pretty anyway!!!!!

looking gergious

Hiiiiiiii

Sugar Daddy Proposal

Wanting to get spoilt rotten with good money, afford luxury clothes, shoes and good lifestyle with a weekly allowance? Am a sugar daddy looking for a loyal and honest sugar Baby to take care of, kindly HMU if interested.

I’m still waiting 😎

Dude: Hey kan u send naked video pvt

Me: You first

Dude: Ai jis do video call

Me: No, just send me a video of you

Dude: No do not hafe video of me

Me: Send me a video of you

Dude: What

Me: Send me a video of you

Me: A naked one

Dude: huh

Me: Dude – seriously? Let’s think about this. Really carefully

Dude: nag

Me: You really think I will send “naked pictures or videos” of me? To you? Who are you even? If you want naked videos or pictures go look on pornsites. Bye

Me: BTW send me your parents details – I need to congratulate them on teaching you manners and respect

Dude: huh?

Rejected!

Dude: Hiiiiiiiii sexy

Dude: You are so gorgeous, and have an incredible delicious body. Tell me, would a fine women like you be taken? Let’s hook up sometime and I can show you a few things *insert an unusual amount of arb emoji’s*

Dude: I guess the cat caught your tongue *insert double of the above amount of emoji’s*

Me: Hey there, thank you. No – however you did appear to message me at 3am. And in all fairness I was catching up on some much needed beauty sleep. No kitties in sight! That leads me to my next answer. I have never gone anywhere against my will, therefor not “taken”. I am however married 🙂

Dude: Aaaaaaaah sorry. Just delete this message. Thanks. I didn’t mean any of it anyway

Me: WHAT? Are you telling me I’m ugly?

Dude: That is not what I meant.

Me: Oh, so I’m not gorgeous, nor fine?

Dude: No, you are very beautiful

Me: Oh you’re assuming that I won’t be lost anymore since I’m “taken” therefor you won’t need to show me “a few things”?

Dude: Yes

Me: Out of curiosity; what exactly were you going to show me (considering you appear to be 19 and I am 39)

USER NOT FOUND

Too Easy

Dude: hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

Me: no

Dude: Okay

How does one resist this?

Too Easy 2

Dude: Can I ask you something?

Me: (think: here we go….) Typing: Sure 😊

Dude: When you pose, do you get horny. Or do you turn the photographer on?

Me: No, and no. This is a job. Do you get turned on at work?

Dude: Sometimes

Me: Well I don’t

Dude: Can I send you a picture?

Me: No thank you

Dude: Please

Me: No

Dude: okay.

Dude: Have a nice evening

Dude: If you change your mind……

Mr Famous

Dude: Thnx 4 da follow love ur gallery wow

Me: Thank you

Dude: Pleasure do you mind sharing some pictures or videos mwa

Me: You may find all my images on artbyam.com

Dude: Was hoping u would make it more special by sending it 4 me Swt *insert roses and hearts and kisses and hearts and roses*

Me: Thanks. I’m a professional model. I don’t swap images. All my images are “special”

Dude: Im totally aware of that but u caught my attention and I find u so attractive its also my dream and vision to become a pro bodybuilder

Me: I suggest you do your research prior to addressing any lady and disrespecting her. I am not a porn star. One of the lessons I suggest you learn (on your way to get your Pro card and being a prominent figure within the industry) is respect and being humble. NOT asking to swap nude videos.

Me: Have a nice life

Since you ask so nicely….

Pardon?

Dude: Hey! hgd?

Dude: Wmj?

Dude: halo sexy; wmj?

Me: what does that even mean?

Dude: jmr mooi dang. js bja mooi!

Me: no

Dude: Jys rrg bja mooi

Dude: Halo?

Dude: wmj

Whilst I do try and engage as much as I can with my followers on IG, I limit my time on Facebook. I also found that the people on Facebook are – in general and not everyone – a little more rude and crude. Perhaps I have just started loosing interest due to the very strict rules and restrictions. Regardless, I value each person who follows me, respects me and takes the time to appreciate what I do. Whatever their thoughts, assumptions or intentions are!

Version 3 will most likely be posted soon! Hope you had a little giggle 😜

Nude Modelling: What actually happens during a photoshoot

Nude Modelling: What actually happens during a photoshoot

Image captured by
Boudoir Fusion Photography

I posted an image last night with a brief description of what happens when I shoot. I’ve had such great responses and more questions that I figured I may give a little more details of what my general shoot day looks like.

BUT FIRST…..

I instantly feel irritated with some questions and remarks when it comes to what I do. However; trying the shoe on my foot – allow me to set a few things straight:

  1. Do you have sex with other photographers and models on set? Don’t be ridiculous would be my first answer. Think of your work place. Do sleep with your clients? Wait…. don’t answer that….the average person doesn’t! We are all there to do a job. Not have sex.
  2. Do you or your photographer get aroused/turned on when you shoot in nude? Again; Don’t be ridiculous. HOWEVER; this is a plausible question as I gather that if you are not used to see people in the nude; being human – it may be a “turn on”. Should this ever be the case, I would not know as all the people I’ve worked with have always kept our shoots very professional. Then again I only work with people who are experienced with what I do.
  3. How does your husband “allow” you to do this? I do not “belong” to a single other individual. I’m not property to be owned – therefor no one should or would have ownership of me and “allow” me to do anything. I would advise you to look very deeply within yourself when you think this way. All my loved ones (including my children) support me, and encourages me. They are fully aware that when I am with them; I give “me”, I give my time and my heart to them. What you see on photos of me is something that is created – not my personality, my heart, my mind or any other intimate moments of me.

Preparation

Clients get in touch with me via my website, Messenger on FB or DM’s on Insta. “Clients” refer to an individual or company that will employ me/pay for me to model a brand, a concept or something abstract. This could be an amateur photographer, a clothing/beauty/food/coffee etc brand, or artist or even a private individual that wants my work displayed in their house/workplace/office/reception or an artist that wishes to paint or sketch me.

Once they have reached out, I send my hourly rates and we discuss what the requirements are. We book hair, make-up and wardrobe if necessary as well as the location.

It’s very similar to an actress – I am provided a reference/dream board/idea and then meet for a briefing of the job.
We go through the set; we discuss at length what mister client wants to achieve and then we start.

On set

First half hour is usually like a rehearsal. I become or embody the mood that is meant to reflect what we shoot. Acting out the emotions and moods. Moving around and “connecting” with the lens. The photographer would take a few shots and we would look at the results and unpack how we want to change or enhance the results thus far.
Sometimes we nail the shot; sometimes we don’t.

Depending on client (I call them trigger happy or interval clickers) I move with every shot or I pose until desired shot, light, mood, and pose is achieved. I have to change my facial expression and my body continuously. 
A lot of people don’t realise this but posing in it self is work! It means you’re posing head to toe – all at the same time! Suck your tummy in, relax the look in your eyes, relax hands and fingers, chin out and nose down, feet pointed at all times, arch back and push out butt etc. You have to know what you are good at, your “good sides”, your flaws (and how to move to avoid it), and not to move in extreme gestures and movements.

This takes a while and sometimes we end up with amazing work, other times not. For most jobs (nude excluded of course); I’d have 3 outfit changes.
We then “load” the images onto the computer, and go through the images.
Selection process then post work begins. This is the harder part, and if the light and set up wasn’t spot on; the most technical part for the photographer would be in post work. Editing becomes more challenging.

Leave the BS at the door

This is my passion – though it’s work I LOVE every minute of every shoot.
I do not entertain any bullshit on set ever.
Then again the people I work with have always been incredibly professional. No person will try anything on. I have always prided myself in being professional and making it clear that there’s no room for any nonsense.

I do not drink on any job, nor would I work with anyone who does. My manager is fully aware of my movements and my diary, as is my family. As soon as I arrive at a job, I’d WhatsApp everyone my location.

The P word

I do not get involved with “adult entertainment” industry, not because I do not agree with it, but because that is not my line of work. Should I ever be addressed or employed for anything that involves the adult industry; I’d consult with my team and most importantly talk to my family.

That being said: I will not and have never entertained or considered pornography. I will not engage or consider that avenue, and have no inclination nor desire to explore that. Yes, pornography to some could also be art. For me personally; it’s not my thing.

SIDE NOTE:

Pornography, representation of sexual behaviour in books, pictures, statues, motion pictures, and other media that is intended to cause sexual excitement. The distinction between pornography (illicit and condemned material) and erotica (which is broadly tolerated) is largely subjective and reflects changing community standards. The word pornography, derived from the Greek porni (“prostitute”) and graphein (“to write”), was originally defined as any work of art or literature depicting the life of prostitutes.

Because the very definition of pornography is subjective, a history of pornography is nearly impossible to conceive; imagery that might be considered erotic or even religious in one society may be condemned as pornographic in another. Thus, European travelers to India in the 19th century were appalled by what they considered pornographic representations of sexual contact and intercourse on Hindu temples such as those of Khajuraho; most modern observers would probably react differently. Many contemporary Muslim societies likewise apply the label “pornography” to many motion pictures and television programs that are unobjectionable in Western societies. To adapt a cliché, pornography is very much in the eye of the beholder.

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Boudoir Fusion Photography

I demand respect

I take my work very seriously 
This is NOT an invite to ask me out, to ask me for a coffee, to ask “to get to know me”, to send me proposals, to send me genitalia or ask me advise on your genitals, to request to pose naked with me, to tell me how I’m asking to be disrespected, to ask me whether I have had any specific sexual deeds done to me. 

What I do is all on images – you cannot assume that I don’t have anything left for my special person in my life. There’s so much more to a body than what the eye meets in an image. 
In fact it is YOUR creativity and imagination that creates something from what you see. If this leads you to anything other than appreciation; keep it to yourself.

Thank You

A lot of my work is for sale too! 
Questions about who I am, my life, my tattoos etc? Have a look at my blogs. It’s all on here.
Thank you to each of you for your ongoing love, kindness and support – I value you so much! I’ve had countless messages from women especially thanking me for inspiration or motivation; and to be frank: THAT makes my day.


🖤 Don’t you think the curves of a woman is just beautiful? 🖤

A’s for the Q’s

A’s for the Q’s

Image by Peter Driessel from
Boudoir Fusion Photography

I love engaging with my followers on social media.  What I do as a nude model intrigues people. People are also curious about my personal life. I get all that and most the time I’ve come to realise that the general public are either misinformed, not educated regarding the industry; curious or ignorant.

This is meant with the most respect as I understand it is not the “norm” to do what I do.

I have asked my followers on two platforms to send me questions that they have, as sometimes I am ask the same questions by different folks. This seems like a great way of answering these repetitive questions as well as for some to get to know a little more about the naked body on Social Media.

Have you ever been sexually harassed by a photographer?

This is such a relevant question. Recently two models from our industry have come forth about two photographers who sexually abused them.

I have never been in such a predicament with my clients or photographers, and I guess that is most likely due to experience as well as the time I spend in researching who I work with. I am very passionate about this topic and such a big ambassador and advocate for – against – this (research #metoo) and busy organising an event that will be addressing sexual abuse, sexual harassment and other traumatic experiences women today face; how to avoid certain scenarios and situations and how to deal with any such happenings.

What is your favourite aspect of modelling?

I am an artistic individual and see beauty in most things. When I express shapes, emotions or just visual beauty; it gives me a feeling of pride and accomplishment.

Knowing that what I do as a model, inspires others – even a small minority – or allows others to see what I do as art or something beautiful (rather than assuming it is sexual), is more fulfilling than the attention received from the general public.

Image by Peter Driessel from
Boudoir Fusion Photography

Should body awareness and the taboo that goes with it be addressed in schools?

This question is something that I could write or talk about for days!!

In short; it starts at home.

Parents are responsible for shaping the morals and beliefs of their children (as well as guiding them and teaching discipline) up to when those kids are old enough to make their own decisions.

Parents are all the products of their own upbringing as well as the expectations and rigid guidelines of “society”. Unfortunately years and years of mass control has led for all religion to instill a fear of God, of hell, and of governments. This has caused individuals to believe that nudity is shameful. It is wrong. It is sin!

The product of these fears and beliefs cause many problems with today’s world population.

Not being allowed something has proved for a lot of people to go out and seek it. What I mean by that is that studies have proved that drug use is higher in countries with stricter laws and control over it.

I firmly believe that if children are taught from an early age to accept and embrace their own bodies and being brought up indifferent of nudity; we would have a lower sexual abuse and crime rate GLOBALLY. Furthermore; we would also have a generation of people who are more body confident. This would lead to a healthier and higher self-confidence rate. You would most likely have a lower bullying rate, and less self-harm, and eating disorders.

Combine this with schools incorporating and backing this upbringing – you would most likely find a healthier and stronger and ultimately more successful population.

How does your partner feel that you do these photoshoots?

My partner is my biggest fan. What I do as a profession is exactly that. Yes I have no problem being nude in public; however I do not pose naked for sexual satisfaction, nor to attract others for relationships or sexual attention.

The way I like to explain it is when you look at a gynaecologist. Or a vintner. Or a pharmacist

When a gynae has patients; they do not have affairs or intercourse or sexual experiences with their patients. It is a profession. Similarly vintners are not necessarily alcoholics nor do they sit and drink bottles of wine all day every day. As well as a pharmacist. They do not sit and inject or pop pills because they dispense it.

I take my passion – that is my job – very seriously. Yes due to the nature I attract a lot of curious individuals and a lot of weirdo’s This does not affect my relationships at home nor do my loved ones worry about what I do.  They support and love me and most of all are all very proud of me, and the success I have achieved.

You have a double barrel surname. Is the first or second one your maiden name?

My maiden name is Montgomery

What is your favourite way of dealing with explicit messages?

This question came up in conversation a few times with friends. It depends on the message (the approach) as well as my mood.

Inappropriate images I often just delete and block the person. I do however sometimes reply with “Is that it?” ; “Why are you sending me child porn?” ; “Thank goodness you showed me that, I am leaving  my husband and coming to live with you. I do have 7 kids so you will have to make room for them”

I’ve recently received a message where a guy told me that he “wanks” to my images and how does that make me feel. My response was “excited to share this news with your wife” – He blocked me after that.

Another message that read: “Bby I want 2 fck u” (yes exactly like that); was met with “I am so sorry; however I do not understand your dialect of stupid”. The individual replied with “I said I want to fuck u” to which I replied “I am sorry I do not understand your dialect of stupid”. This continued a few lines, and I gather he eventually gave up.

I have learnt not to take these messages seriously. That there will always be someone who will try their luck or be a jerk.

Image by Peter Driessel from
Boudoir Fusion Photography

Why nude modelling?

I’ve been modelling for many years and only recently realised that I am incredibly passionate about nude modelling. Not only nude modelling but also being a “spokesperson”, industry representative and activist for nudity, women empowerment, equality (feminism) as well as Body Positivity and #MeToo.

The actual deed or act of nude modelling has brought to me not only liberation and freedom, but also a sense of empowerment. What many people may not know about me; is that I have experienced sexual abuse several times growing up. This in itself may cause a lot of people to deal with it in ways that they would want to hide themselves, not show off their bodies or whatever else.

For me?  I turned this around and I use my nudity as a weapon. As a stand against abuse. As a method of control. I am able to express myself. Express my emotions and passions. Create art with  the human body – all within my control.

Though on surface level you see a naked person; what I actually am is someone who is standing against society; against sexual offenders, and abusers. I am representing every girl and woman and standing for all to believe in themselves enough to know that you’re allowed to embrace and love yourself.

Please feel free to send me more questions, as I am always happy to answer them and to give people an insight in my world. I’m a very private person so you will not learn much about my partner, children or family and friends; however I will try and educate people about my profession.

Please also keep your eyes peeled on my FB, Twitter and IG sites for more information about my other business’, events and workshops.

Nude Modelling: What actually happens during a photoshoot

What the DM?!

Have you ever wondered what goes on in my DM’s? Of course, you have! Or you could only imagine or assume right?

Doing what I’m doing one would naturally assume that you attract all kinds of attention. Personally, it doesn’t bother me. From my understanding; it is human nature to get excited, intrigued, even mesmerised by something that is considered taboo in our day to day lives. To follow someone that so flamboyantly comfortable to expose so much skin; to become so comfortably sensual in the public eye, is certainly not “normal” in society.

Here are a few of the DM’s that I have received – and saved. I will be keeping it anonymous. Should you see one of your DM’s here; please don’t take offense.

Please also note that there are a lot of grammar and spelling mistakes. Not mine. Theirs

Mr Flirt

Follower: You are a stunner, and you are a flirt too

Me: Thank you for the compliment

Follower: Why do you flirt when you are married?

Follower: Tease

Me: No, I think you confuse the two. When someone is friendly and when someone is flirting

Follower: Interesting

Follower: The Question being, why are you so flirty?

Me: I’m really happy to have met you. And thank you for the lovely compliments. I am happily married and would never dream of screwing up my relationship of 18 years. I have always been the way I am.

Some people get it, some don’t. You don’t need to get it.

Follower: You are avoiding the question of being flirty….a simple yes or no

Me: No

Follower: Cool, nice meeting you

Me: have a great day 😊

Mr Big Bucks

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hi

Follower: How are you?

Follower: Hi

Follower: I will give you R5000 to talk to me

Follower: I’ll take that as a no…Bye now….Don’t have time for people who waste my time

Follower: Hi Alli

Follower: Hi??????

Sexy Selfie

Follower: Hi, I love your photos

Me: Thank you so much, and thank you for your support

Follower: Sweet so send a sexy selfie

Follower: It’s a pleasure but send sume sexy selfie of you self  (exactly how that was typed)

Me: You are welcome to look at any of my images on my website 😊

Follower: But u my send me sume plz hun

Follower: What r u up to now

Me: I think you have the wrong impression of me. I’m at home with my husband and children 😊

Follower: No I don’t. Send me a selfie of u now plz

Me: Sure

(Here I sent him three images of a hairy elderly overweight man)

Follower: what???

Me: What is wrong?

Mr Crude

Follower: Do you have a nice bush hiding inside your panty?

Me: Do you speak to your mum like that?

Follower: You are not my mum

Me: Thank heavens for that!! I’d be mortified if I was!

Follower: So do you have a nice bush in hiding?

Me: What is your name and where do you live?

Follower: How about a full body pic?

Me: What is your name and where do you live?

Follower: Tom Oliver Florida

Me: Oh fabulous Tom. Shall I tag your real name when I repost this?

*this contact does not exist*

Mr To-the-Point

Follower: Hii

Follower: Sexy girl

Follower: kisses

Follower: You are so hot

Follower: I want to F**k you

Taking a chance?

Follower: Do you still do shoots?

Me: Good morning XXXX, yes I do 😊

Follower: Are you on whatsapp please

Follower: Alli still waiting to pay you please

Me: Pay me for?

Follower: A shoot we want you in please

Me: I will send my rates shortly. Who is “we”?

Follower: XXXX from world mag. Are you on whatsapp please?

Me: Insert his profile image which is blank.

Me: Aaaaaaah I thought I recognised you!!!

Follower: Me. What have I done?

Me: Apologies but I do not give my number out.

Me: Nothing at all. You don’t have a profile picture

Me: Insert my rates and Z card

Follower: But we still need your number for our system i keep to myself

Follower: We have better rates

Me: That’s amazing. Please feel free to email my agent

Follower: Why not chat direct to u

Me: Insert agent email address

Follower: Pay u 9k bikini 15k topless and 25k nude

Me: No worries. Sounds great

Follower: It is for world mag a uk company

Me: Please send your company details including company registration, address and telephone number to Insert agent email address

Follower: Again still need u number u can delete again

Me: Inclusive of all the details

Me: Nope

Me: You may email the details to my agent so that we can ensure this is legit

Follower: Sure

Me: This is unfortunately my terms.

I then research the name of the magazine and google comes up with “WORLD magazine – Today’s Christian Views and Christain News”. I take screen shot and post it to him

Follower: Our sister company

Follower: I know you are married

Me: Your sister company is a Christian magazine? And you need me to pose nude?

I’m sorry, I have NEVER done business over “whatsapp”. I have never accepted 25K offer over messenger.

You do not have a profile photo.

You have no photos

You tell me you work for a Christian magazine’s sister company but you want me to do nude shoots.

Please supply me with your office number so that I can speak to you and verify your existence.

Follower:  I will email you

Me: Of course you will 😊 Have a great day scammer

M

Mr Educator

Follower: *insert Eggplant and splash emoji’s*

Follower: Good morning wow

Follower: Hey there

Follower: Do you know what a c*m shot is?

Follower: x

Me: do you know what respect is?

Let’s just try (1)

Follower: Hi, what else could u do besides nude shoots?

Me: I am a full time model 😊

Follower: So if I pay you for escort services?

Me: Then I’d would suggest you look for an escort agency

Follower: If I were to ask you out on a date?

Me: Then I’d say noJ

Jerk

Follower: Thanks for the morning glory

Follower: U made my day

Follower: *insert heart emoji*

Follower: R you realy gonna just leave me with this hard on, and nothing to do with it?

Me: Yes I am.

Because number one I am not a sex worker nor a pornographer

Number two I am married

Number three I do not mingle with individuals who cannot respect me.

Follower: My bad

Let’s just Try (2)

Follower: But now we can be friends yeah?

Follower: Can we? Tell me coz I’m in suspense

Follower: May I ask, do your tattoos have any meanings?

Follower: U wanna bang or what now?

Follower: You never told me about your tattoos

Follower: *inserts an image of one of my tattoos*

Follower: So you fill on with shit?

Me: Do you eat food with that filthy mouth?

Follower: No man! I didn’t mean it in a kuk way I’m just saying

Follower: Can I give you my number?

Follower: Can you give me yours?

Follower: I really wanna f**k you

Follower: Come now how much u gonna cost me?

Follower: You never told me about your tattoos

Follower: Like ur skin is so fine, to tat it looks cool for sure, gives me a boner n stuff but, does it resemble anything?

Follower: Like snoopy is better than a butterfly

Follower: Wouldn’t you agree?M

Mr Poser

Follower: How much for a naked art photo shoot with you?

Follower: You must pay me Im willing to pose naked next to you

Me: That’s kind of you however I have plenty male models. Thank you for the offer 😊

Follower: K cant I do one free bee with you guys will even pay for it photo shoot please. How much will you ask? Wont go viral uncensored please I just want to pose naked next to babe love the art of being naked even shaved my pubs clean for it

Follower: how much for a naked with you?

Me: I appreciate your support thank you

Follower: What is the price?

Follower: must I send you a naked pic of my body? To see I pass please

Me: No please don’t

Follower: K but I’m only 33 still love your naked pic just to bad you have to blur it out on Instagram why you don’t use twitter no cover up on twitter

Follower: geez Im not doing it for money or any sex just asking to pose naked with you guys and girls for one day Im also a borned nudist

Follower: Leave it then if I have to pay for my naked body to be on somecover

Follower: going full nude if you like it or not!

NEXT MORNING

Follower: Sorry I was drunk last night, I wasn’t thinking. My bad
M

Mr Persistent

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hi there

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hi

Follower: Sexy

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hiiiii

Follower: hi

Follower: Hi

Follower: Hello

Follower: hi

Follower: how r u

Follower: sexy

Follower: Hi

I have decided to screenshot and save all strange, rude and amusing DM’s I receive. People automatically assume the worst or extreme. Instead of retaliating I usually respond with as much patience and kindness as possible. It is not always possible, however hopefully it does affect them in some way.

I have plenty more, however have realised that I’d be losing some of the audience with all the drivel. Perhaps I will post more soon.