I posted an image last night with a brief description of what happens when I shoot. I’ve had such great responses and more questions that I figured I may give a little more details of what my general shoot day looks like.
I instantly feel irritated with some questions and remarks when it comes to what I do. However; trying the shoe on my foot – allow me to set a few things straight:
Do you have sex with other photographers and models on set? Don’t be ridiculous would be my first answer. Think of your work place. Do sleep with your clients? Wait…. don’t answer that….the average person doesn’t! We are all there to do a job. Not have sex.
Do you or your photographer get aroused/turned on when you shoot in nude? Again; Don’t be ridiculous. HOWEVER; this is a plausible question as I gather that if you are not used to see people in the nude; being human – it may be a “turn on”. Should this ever be the case, I would not know as all the people I’ve worked with have always kept our shoots very professional. Then again I only work with people who are experienced with what I do.
How does your husband “allow” you to do this? I do not “belong” to a single other individual. I’m not property to be owned – therefor no one should or would have ownership of me and “allow” me to do anything. I would advise you to look very deeply within yourself when you think this way. All my loved ones (including my children) support me, and encourages me. They are fully aware that when I am with them; I give “me”, I give my time and my heart to them. What you see on photos of me is something that is created – not my personality, my heart, my mind or any other intimate moments of me.
Clients get in touch with me via my website, Messenger on FB or DM’s on Insta. “Clients” refer to an individual or company that will employ me/pay for me to model a brand, a concept or something abstract. This could be an amateur photographer, a clothing/beauty/food/coffee etc brand, or artist or even a private individual that wants my work displayed in their house/workplace/office/reception or an artist that wishes to paint or sketch me.
Once they have reached out, I send my hourly rates and we discuss what the requirements are. We book hair, make-up and wardrobe if necessary as well as the location.
It’s very similar to an actress – I am provided a reference/dream board/idea and then meet for a briefing of the job. We go through the set; we discuss at length what mister client wants to achieve and then we start.
First half hour is usually like a rehearsal. I become or embody the mood that is meant to reflect what we shoot. Acting out the emotions and moods. Moving around and “connecting” with the lens. The photographer would take a few shots and we would look at the results and unpack how we want to change or enhance the results thus far. Sometimes we nail the shot; sometimes we don’t.
Depending on client (I call them trigger happy or interval clickers) I move with every shot or I pose until desired shot, light, mood, and pose is achieved. I have to change my facial expression and my body continuously. A lot of people don’t realise this but posing in it self is work! It means you’re posing head to toe – all at the same time! Suck your tummy in, relax the look in your eyes, relax hands and fingers, chin out and nose down, feet pointed at all times, arch back and push out butt etc. You have to know what you are good at, your “good sides”, your flaws (and how to move to avoid it), and not to move in extreme gestures and movements.
This takes a while and sometimes we end up with amazing work, other times not. For most jobs (nude excluded of course); I’d have 3 outfit changes. We then “load” the images onto the computer, and go through the images. Selection process then post work begins. This is the harder part, and if the light and set up wasn’t spot on; the most technical part for the photographer would be in post work. Editing becomes more challenging.
Leave the BS at the door
This is my passion – though it’s work I LOVE every minute of every shoot. I do not entertain any bullshit on set ever. Then again the people I work with have always been incredibly professional. No person will try anything on. I have always prided myself in being professional and making it clear that there’s no room for any nonsense.
I do not drink on any job, nor would I work with anyone who does. My manager is fully aware of my movements and my diary, as is my family. As soon as I arrive at a job, I’d WhatsApp everyone my location.
The P word
I do not get involved with “adult entertainment” industry, not because I do not agree with it, but because that is not my line of work. Should I ever be addressed or employed for anything that involves the adult industry; I’d consult with my team and most importantly talk to my family.
That being said: I will not and have never entertained or considered pornography. I will not engage or consider that avenue, and have no inclination nor desire to explore that. Yes, pornography to some could also be art. For me personally; it’s not my thing.
Pornography, representation of sexual behaviour in books, pictures, statues, motion pictures, and other media that is intended to cause sexual excitement. The distinction between pornography (illicit and condemned material) and erotica (which is broadly tolerated) is largely subjective and reflects changing community standards. The word pornography, derived from the Greek porni (“prostitute”) and graphein (“to write”), was originally defined as any work of art or literature depicting the life of prostitutes.
Because the very definition of pornography is subjective, a history of pornography is nearly impossible to conceive; imagery that might be considered erotic or even religious in one society may be condemned as pornographic in another. Thus, European travelers to India in the 19th century were appalled by what they considered pornographic representations of sexual contact and intercourse on Hindu temples such as those of Khajuraho; most modern observers would probably react differently. Many contemporary Muslim societies likewise apply the label “pornography” to many motion pictures and television programs that are unobjectionable in Western societies. To adapt a cliché, pornography is very much in the eye of the beholder.
I demand respect
I take my work very seriously This is NOT an invite to ask me out, to ask me for a coffee, to ask “to get to know me”, to send me proposals, to send me genitalia or ask me advise on your genitals, to request to pose naked with me, to tell me how I’m asking to be disrespected, to ask me whether I have had any specific sexual deeds done to me.
What I do is all on images – you cannot assume that I don’t have anything left for my special person in my life. There’s so much more to a body than what the eye meets in an image. In fact it is YOUR creativity and imagination that creates something from what you see. If this leads you to anything other than appreciation; keep it to yourself.
A lot of my work is for sale too! Questions about who I am, my life, my tattoos etc? Have a look at my blogs. It’s all on here. Thank you to each of you for your ongoing love, kindness and support – I value you so much! I’ve had countless messages from women especially thanking me for inspiration or motivation; and to be frank: THAT makes my day.
🖤 Don’t you think the curves of a woman is just beautiful? 🖤
Have you ever wondered what goes on in my DM’s? Of
course, you have! Or you could only imagine or assume right?
Doing what I’m doing one would naturally assume that you
attract all kinds of attention. Personally, it doesn’t bother me. From my
understanding; it is human nature to get excited, intrigued, even mesmerised by
something that is considered taboo in our day to day lives. To follow someone
that so flamboyantly comfortable to expose so much skin; to become so
comfortably sensual in the public eye, is certainly not “normal” in society.
Here are a few of the DM’s that I have received – and saved. I will be keeping it anonymous. Should you see one of your DM’s here; please don’t take offense.
Please also note that there are a lot of grammar and spelling mistakes. Not mine. Theirs
Follower: You are a stunner, and you are a flirt too
Me: Thank you for the compliment
Follower: Why do you flirt when you are married?
Me: No, I think you confuse the two. When someone is
friendly and when someone is flirting
Follower: The Question being, why are you so flirty?
Me: I’m really happy to have met you. And thank you for
the lovely compliments. I am happily married and would never dream of screwing
up my relationship of 18 years. I have always been the way I am.
Some people get it, some don’t. You don’t need to get it.
Follower: You are avoiding the question of being flirty….a
simple yes or no
Follower: Cool, nice meeting you
Me: have a great day 😊
Mr Big Bucks
Follower: How are you?
Follower: I will give you R5000 to talk to me
Follower: I’ll take that as a no…Bye now….Don’t have time
for people who waste my time
Follower: Hi Alli
Follower: Hi, I love your photos
Me: Thank you so much, and thank you for your support
Follower: Sweet so send a sexy selfie
Follower: It’s a pleasure but send sume sexy selfie of
you self (exactly how that was typed)
Me: You are welcome to look at any of my images on my
Follower: But u my send me sume plz hun
Follower: What r u up to now
Me: I think you have the wrong impression of me. I’m at
home with my husband and children 😊
Follower: No I don’t. Send me a selfie of u now plz
(Here I sent him three images of a hairy elderly
Me: What is wrong?
Follower: Do you have a nice bush hiding inside your
Me: Do you speak to your mum like that?
Follower: You are not my mum
Me: Thank heavens for that!! I’d be mortified if I was!
Follower: So do you have a nice bush in hiding?
Me: What is your name and where do you live?
Follower: How about a full body pic?
Me: What is your name and where do you live?
Follower: Tom Oliver Florida
Me: Oh fabulous Tom. Shall I tag your real name when I
*this contact does not exist*
Follower: Sexy girl
Follower: You are so hot
Follower: I want to F**k you
Taking a chance?
Follower: Do you still do shoots?
Me: Good morning XXXX, yes I do 😊
Follower: Are you on whatsapp please
Follower: Alli still waiting to pay you please
Me: Pay me for?
Follower: A shoot we want you in please
Me: I will send my rates shortly. Who is “we”?
Follower: XXXX from world mag. Are you on whatsapp
Me: Insert his profile image which is blank.
Me: Aaaaaaah I thought I recognised you!!!
Follower: Me. What have I done?
Me: Apologies but I do not give my number out.
Me: Nothing at all. You don’t have a profile picture
Me: Insert my rates and Z card
Follower: But we still need your number for our system i
keep to myself
Follower: We have better rates
Me: That’s amazing. Please feel free to email my agent
Follower: Why not chat direct to u
Me: Insert agent email address
Follower: Pay u 9k bikini 15k topless and 25k nude
Me: No worries. Sounds great
Follower: It is for world mag a uk company
Me: Please send your company details including company
registration, address and telephone number to Insert agent email address
Follower: Again still need u number u can delete again
Me: Inclusive of all the details
Me: You may email the details to my agent so that we can
ensure this is legit
Me: This is unfortunately my terms.
I then research the name of the magazine and
google comes up with “WORLD magazine – Today’s Christian Views and Christain
News”. I take screen shot and post it to him
Follower: Our sister company
Follower: I know you are married
Me: Your sister company is a Christian magazine? And you
need me to pose nude?
I’m sorry, I have NEVER done business over “whatsapp”. I
have never accepted 25K offer over messenger.
You do not have a profile photo.
You have no photos
You tell me you work for a Christian magazine’s sister
company but you want me to do nude shoots.
Please supply me with your office number so that I can
speak to you and verify your existence.
Follower: I will
Me: Of course you will 😊 Have a great day scammer
Follower: *insert Eggplant and splash emoji’s*
Follower: Good morning wow
Follower: Hey there
Follower: Do you know what a c*m shot is?
Me: do you know what respect is?
Let’s just try (1)
Follower: Hi, what else could u do besides nude shoots?
Me: I am a full time model 😊
Follower: So if I pay you for escort services?
Me: Then I’d would suggest you look for an escort agency
Follower: If I were to ask you out on a date?
Me: Then I’d say noJ
Follower: Thanks for the morning glory
Follower: U made my day
Follower: *insert heart emoji*
Follower: R you realy gonna just leave me with this hard
on, and nothing to do with it?
Me: Yes I am.
Because number one I am not a sex worker nor a
Number two I am married
Number three I do not mingle with individuals who cannot
Follower: My bad
Let’s just Try (2)
Follower: But now we can be friends yeah?
Follower: Can we? Tell me coz I’m in suspense
Follower: May I ask, do your tattoos have any meanings?
Follower: U wanna bang or what now?
Follower: You never told me about your tattoos
Follower: *inserts an image of one of my tattoos*
Follower: So you fill on with shit?
Me: Do you eat food with that filthy mouth?
Follower: No man! I didn’t mean it in a kuk way I’m just saying
Follower: Can I give you my number?
Follower: Can you give me yours?
Follower: I really wanna f**k you
Follower: Come now how much u gonna cost me?
Follower: You never told me about your tattoos
Follower: Like ur skin is so fine, to tat it looks cool
for sure, gives me a boner n stuff but, does it resemble anything?
Follower: Like snoopy is better than a butterfly
Follower: Wouldn’t you agree?M
Follower: How much for a naked art photo shoot with you?
Follower: You must pay me Im willing to pose naked next
Me: That’s kind of you however I have plenty male models.
Thank you for the offer 😊
Follower: K cant I do one free bee with you guys will
even pay for it photo shoot please. How much will you ask? Wont go viral uncensored
please I just want to pose naked next to babe love the art of being naked even
shaved my pubs clean for it
Follower: how much for a naked with you?
Me: I appreciate your support thank you
Follower: What is the price?
Follower: must I send you a naked pic of my body? To see I
Me: No please don’t
Follower: K but I’m only 33 still love your naked pic just
to bad you have to blur it out on Instagram why you don’t use twitter no cover
up on twitter
Follower: geez Im not doing it for money or any sex just
asking to pose naked with you guys and girls for one day Im also a borned
Follower: Leave it then if I have to pay for my naked
body to be on somecover
Follower: going full nude if you like it or not!
Follower: Sorry I was drunk last night, I wasn’t thinking.
My bad M
Follower: Hi there
Follower: how r u
I have decided to screenshot and save all strange, rude
and amusing DM’s I receive. People automatically assume the worst or extreme.
Instead of retaliating I usually respond with as much patience and kindness as
possible. It is not always possible, however hopefully it does affect them in
I have plenty more, however have realised that I’d be losing
some of the audience with all the drivel. Perhaps I will post more soon.
I am feeling so incredibly blessed and humbled. When someone
asked me middle last year (2018) “when will the calendars come”, I responded
that it wasn’t a bad idea.
I put it to the test on my story line on Instagram and had such
a huge response that it was a done deal. We will have a calendar for 2019. We
fast approached December and with all the touring and workshops, I had little
time to decide which images would be best suited for this calendar. It had to
be special and exclusive. Not all that was posted and plastered on social media
and also not on my site – as the members would have seen it already (what would
make it so special then?)
Come January I still only had a handful of images. Some of
the images that I withheld from the public eye started to bore me – and if that
was the case; it would certainly bore he audience. Another issue I had was when
Tony my tattoo artist asked about his copy; I realised that the calendar will
be for all his clients to see too. It simply had to be above average.
Quality over quantity
After being in touch with various print companies, I shared my ideas (and some frustrations) with my photography sponsor Peter Driessel (Boudoir Fusion Photography http://bfphoto.co.za/ ). In case you didn’t know; he specialises in boudoir, nude, conceptual, weddings and pet photography.
Peter and I have become good friends so I trust Peter’s judgments
and listen to his suggestions. We have decided to shoot new images for the calendar.
Not only are these new images, they have not been seen before and after the
calendar is done; we wont release any of the images until February 2020.
And so, the race to get the calendar out (before 2020)
has begun! As we speak, Peter is busy with the final touches. We have created
and selected various images that would hopefully cater for all my followers’
tastes. Some studio work, some artistic, some funny, some sexy and sultry, and
some just soft and sensual. And what makes me so proud is that I not only get
to work alongside an award-winning photographer; our audience get exclusive
ownership to these images.
It will not get seen – unless you own a copy of this
calendar, or unless you see it from the owner of the calendar.
I have the best photographer that has assisted me in sharing
some beautiful work. I have had an amazing response with regards to buyers.
Some who have even bought a few as gifts for their mates. My international
followers requesting their digital copies (we will be releasing those at the
same time); and most of all: the support from everyone.
I love what I do. I love my art. I love expressing myself
through my work. Most of all; I’ve noticed that people have started warming up
to the idea of what I do. That there’s something magical and beautiful. No
hidden agendas. No hidden motives.
Just what you see (well – on social media it’s cencored!)