I think we can all relate when the topic of “society and what it expects” that comes up in discussion quite often. The fact that so many things are frowned- upon as we are lead to believe that it is either wrong or unpleasant or just not accepted. Being brought up in a single household, my mum has always taught us to think on our feet, think for ourselves and never-ever depend on anyone. She has also taught us that hurting anyone in anyway is not acceptable, that any religion, culture, race and sex can’t be wrong. That God is within you. That you should question everything. And most of all, you must do what you want – however you need to know that for everything you do, you should have to deal with the repercussions of your decision. Every action has a reaction and you will take responsibility for that.
Being brought up this way, we knew we were different from the average other person. We had friends that we weren’t allowed to have according to our government. We were often sent to the principal’s office for daring to question our teachers. We all knew that we would be successful no matter what. We have always been quite optimistic – it still irritates people, lol. And of course, has led me to be the rebel I am. The topic of what society expects the perfect woman must look like, as well as what we see in the media on a daily basis since who knows when; is certainly not new. I personally had a bout of depression after my second born – and felt physically disgusting. I didn’t match up to how my peers looked. Silly really considering I was a young mum and most of them were still having the time of their life, whilst I was playing house house; and I didn’t feel nearly as glamourous as the mums in the post maternal, post-partum magazines that the NHS kept dishing out. Even whilst breastfeeding, these ladies looked like super models. I eventually got some help – and slowly but surely tried building myself up. Shortly there after I was diagnosed with Lupus SLA, another topic for another day, which triggered a new-found passion and determination.
Now; after many years I realised that my love of the human body, how it works, how powerful it can be, how beautiful it can be, how strange it can be, how hypnotising it can be as well as how I am able to transform my own. But most of all – how many people are ashamed of theirs. Since embarking on this road of being a photographic model, I hear the words “you are so lucky to look that way” or “if I looked like you, I would have the guts too”. What people fail to realise is that I too; thought that way at one stage. That no matter how skinny or overweight you think you are or feel – you will not be happy until you accept yourself and start loving yourself. I have found it so disappointing how people, woman in specific, have this need or desire to put other people down on social media. To call them out for whatever reason and perhaps feel better for condemning them for showing too much flesh, or for projecting themselves in a certain way. Who actually cares??? If it makes a person feel proud or good about themselves to post something like boobs, butt or their feet – let them be.
This has led me to the current project that I am working on together with my business partner Peter, you would know him has Boudoir Fusion Photography. The aim is to bring some perspective on the topic of nudity, the feelings behind nude images as well as showing nipple *gasp*, the topic of older models, and the topic on the nude model industry. For this we will include members of the public as well as my fellow modelling peers from all ages. This is really exciting and all the participants will be interviewed too. If you have any questions about this topic; please get in touch and let us know so that we can include this as part of the project.